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at Trinity Church
The Rev. Richard A. Burnett, Rector
Ms. Diane Donato, Wedding Coordinator
Ms. Sara Seidel, Wedding Organist
Contact information and a complete list of staff and Priest Associates can be found on our Clergy & Staff page
The union of husband and wife in heart, body, and mind is intended by God for their mutual joy; for the help and comfort given one another in prosperity and adversity.
— The Book of Common Prayer, page 422
The wedding service in the Episcopal Church is called the Celebration and Blessing of a Marriage. A wedding is the occasion when the Christian community gathers to celebrate your commitment to one another and to ask God’s blessing on your life together. We are pleased that you wish to celebrate your marriage at Trinity Church. We want to provide you with information concerning preparation for marriage and planning for the wedding ceremony. Since each marriage and each wedding is unique, and you will have specific questions and concerns, you are encouraged to speak with the clergy about your particular questions.
Please notify Trinity Church as soon as you know that you wish to get married here. Please do not publish a date or make any arrangements for a reception, etc. until the date and time are cleared with the Parish Office and one of the clergy has agreed to officiate. It is never too early to contact the church.
Weddings normally take place on Saturdays, but may be arranged for other days of the week. Weddings will be scheduled so that they do not conflict with the worship or program life of the parish. Weddings may not take place during the season of Lent.
Those who seek to be married in the Episcopal Church affirm that they intend a life-long commitment to one another. The bride and groom are asked to sign a Declaration of Intention to enter into Christian marriage. Their vows are made in the presence of God and within the Christian community. Therefore, it is required that one, at least, of the parties must be a baptized Christian, that the ceremony be attested by at least two witnesses; and that the marriage conform to the laws of the State and the canons of this Church. (The Book of Common Prayer, page 422)
If either person has been divorced, the couple must meet with the clergy to decide if re-marriage is advisable. If the decision is made to proceed with the marriage, the clergy must seek permission from the Bishop of the Episcopal Diocese of Southern Ohio. The priest submits forms, including information from the couple. The procedure for seeking permission for re-marriage takes 60 days, and the wedding should not be announced until the permission has been received.
In discussing marriage with any couple, whether re-marriage is involved or not, the priest may advise the couple against marriage and may decline to officiate at the wedding.
The couple will be responsible for securing an Ohio marriage license. A marriage license is valid for sixty days. It is necessary for the officiating priest to be in possession of the license before the ceremony, preferably at the time of the rehearsal for the wedding.
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The couple will meet for pre-marital conversations with the priest who will officiate at the wedding. These meetings allow the couple to consider and discuss both practical and spiritual aspects of marriage and to build a foundation for the promises they will make. Planning the wedding ceremony is also included. The number of sessions required is at the discretion of the clergy. In exceptional circumstances, such as when the bride and groom live elsewhere, arrangements may be made for another priest to provide the pre-marital counseling.
In addition to pre-marital counseling, you will be asked to speak with the Wedding Organist, if music will be a part of your wedding ceremony.
The clergy of Trinity Church consider it a privilege to officiate at weddings held in this parish. The Rector determines which of the Trinity clergy will officiate, taking into account such factors as a particular pastoral relationship between the couple and one of the clergy. Other clergy, such as the parish priest of the bride or groom, or a relative or friend who is ordained (in the Episcopal Church, the Evangelical Lutheran Church in America, or in another denomination) may be invited by the Rector to serve in the wedding service.
The Book of Common Prayer of the Episcopal Church contains the service for The Celebration and Blessing of a Marriage (pages 423–432). Wedding ceremonies at Trinity Church follow this service. You should read through the service carefully as you begin to think about your wedding. Many parts of the ceremony, including the vows, are specified by the Prayer Book. Other aspects are variable, including Scripture lessons and customs such as giving away the bride. The wedding may or may not include a celebration of the Holy Eucharist. Family and friends may be invited to read Scripture lessons or prayers. The officiant will guide you in making appropriate choices for your wedding service.
Both instrumental music and hymns can be a significant and beautiful part of the wedding service. The Wedding Organist will guide you in the selection of music. You may discuss any requests you may have. The Organist also is able to make recommendations and must approve all music for weddings at Trinity. Other instrumentalists and vocalists may participate, if you wish. The participation of other musicians, including any organist other than the Wedding Organist of Trinity Church, must be coordinated with the Wedding Organist.
An order of service allows those attending the wedding to follow and participate in the ceremony. Producing the order of service is the responsibility of the bride and groom. Before the final printing of the program, the officiant must review it. Finished copies of the order of service should be brought to the church at the time of the rehearsal.
Choosing flowers for your wedding will enhance the celebration and complement the beauty of the church itself. Speak with the Wedding Coordinator if you have any questions regarding floral arangements and if you wish to have your flowers remain in the church for the following Sunday's worship services. In this case, it is possible to have a memorial announcement made during those liturgies.
If aisle candles are used, modest decorations may be attached to the wrought-iron candle stands. The florist, or a member of the wedding party, is responsible for removing the decorations from the candle stands after the ceremony.
For safety reasons, aisle runners are not permitted at Trinity Church.
Photographs and videos provide meaningful keepsakes of your wedding day. Trinity Church requests that any photographer or videographer contracted for a wedding in the church plan to speak with the officiating clergy prior to the wedding. Clergy can be contacted either directly by phone or email, or at the rehearsal or in the parish library one half hour prior to worship on the day of the wedding.
The clergy will be available for brief photographs with the wedding couple immediately following worship on the wedding day.
We ask that persons attending the wedding refrain from taking personal photographs during worship.
A wedding rehearsal is essential. Participants in the ceremony need preparation for the various roles they must carry out. A rehearsal of one full hour helps make the participants more comfortable, and ensures that the ceremony will proceed smoothly and with dignity. The rehearsal normally takes place the evening before the wedding, although on occasion it may need to be held at another time. The rehearsal time should be scheduled with the wedding coordinator.
The bridal party may arrive up to two hours prior to the ceremony for the purpose of last-minute preparations, pre-wedding photographs, etc. The Bride’s Room will be made available for the bride, her attendants, and her immediate family. The women of the bridal party may dress at the church.
The fee for communicants in good standing of Trinity Church, regular worshippers who are also on record as contributors to the church, is $800. This fee covers the cost for the wedding coordinator, the organist, the sexton, a donation into the Rector's discressionary fund, as well as other incidental expenses.
The fee for all other persons is $1,600. In addition to the expenses listed above, this includes a fee for the use of the church and an honorarium which is deposited in the discretionary fund of the officiating priest.
There are additional costs for optional services, if desired.
These fees apply to all weddings at Trinity Church:
Aisle Candles $20 per stand
Payment in full is due 30 days before the ceremony.
Checks should be made payable to "Trinity Episcopal Church."
Will all of you witnessing these promises do all in your power to uphold these two persons in their marriage? We will.
— The Book of Common Prayer, page 425
The Christian community promises to support you in your marriage. We hope that your relationship to Trinity Church will continue and that you will find spiritual growth and sustenance here. Please remember that clergy are available for “post-marital” counseling as well, to help you live out the vows that you make on your wedding day.
May the Grace and Peace of God be yours always.
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